MARRIAGE

MARRIAGE 101
MARRIAGE TAKES WORK!


                            ABOUT FREE MARRIAGE COUNSELING & THE CLASS WHICH ACCOMPANIES IT
      The making of two into one isn't easy and I know that most people need help to be successful. You don't simply get married and have hearts, flowers and butterflies every day for the remainder of your life! Our own marriage wasn't perfect either. We still had fusses with each other, but the recovery time grew shorter every year. Bob and I needed to teach these classes just like you do. As we taught, we learned and applied the same principles too. 

   You are not the same person mentally, physically, or spiritually than you were last year, are you? Tastes, ideas, feelings, opinions, beliefs, standards, desires, rules and interests change every year, so it's vitally important to learn and adjust to one another. Many of our couples have said over the years that until the classes, they had never known their spouse thought or felt like they did! Well, your marriage isn't either it grows and changes into a new and different kind of marriage every month, every year! Doesn't it make sense that you need to re-adjust your communication methods on a regular basis? That is why everyone, regardless of the state of their relationship, should be attending marriage classes, every year as often as possible, if they want to get and stay closer to each other. No matter what type relationship you want to work on, family, marriage, single, premarital, youth or parental, you can learn how to make it even better. 

   Conflicts arise when we are so consumed with our careers and other influences and issues that we do not take the time to be together and communicate these changes. The lack of communication builds up and we are no longer in sync. Throughout the years, married couples have expressed their surprise when they learn that you don't just go through one premarital class and that's it. 

   For example, take marriage. Marriage really does take a lot of work. Every day you must work at it better. Marriage classes are not to be taken once or only when your marriage is in trouble; it's an ongoing process, so if you want an excellent marriage, take classes! It's much better to do regular maintenance on your relationship that to have to try to repair a broken one.

   High quality counseling at no charge is almost impossible to find, but I remained in this city, I was born in, because I have a calling from God to provide this to people in need. Even if you think your relationships are doing fine, don't you agree, you could add a little zing to it by learning some more communication techniques and pick up a few tips? 

   Resolve today to continue your relationship education! There is nothing more important than this for you and your future generations to have a successful and happy life. I hope you become a part of Relationships 101!
*** We also perform weddings for a small fee when the couple attends our premarital class. 
          1. We do not provide childcare while you are being counseled.
          2. Please allow for 2-3 hours with us when you set your appointments. We never go according to the length of time you are here - we are led by the Holy Spirit and some appointments take longer than others. 
         3. Our time is very limited so if you cancel an appointment we have set with you, it hurts other couples waiting in line for their appointment. We allow one canceled appointment and after that, if there is another, we can no longer make appointments with you. 
4. Counseling is always done at no charge. The class I provide along with counseling is $40.00 per couple, payable when you arrive.
   We realize that completing the questionnaires will take time, but if you are committed to working on your marriage, you will do whatever it takes to get help. There are many couples who won't do the work, but we are hoping you aren't one of them. You are worth it. Do it today. The counseling is free for heaven's sake!

 Email: philandjess@marriage101.net  
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Please copy and past the following questionnaire onto a WORD DOCUMENT, answer all of the questions and email the WORD DOCUMENT as an attachment to philandjess@marriage101.net 

After we receive the complete questionnaire it will be reviewed and Starr will give you a call to set up your first free counseling appointment. 

Name:
Address:
City: State: Zip Code
Phone:
Email:

Date of Birth:
Place of employment & position at your job:
Spouse:
Facebook page name:

YOUR MARRIAGE
1. How long have you been together?
2. Are you married? If so, what is your anniversary date?
3. Before you married or started living together, did you have premarital counseling? If so, what were the results?
4. How long have you been married?
5. Did you live together before you were married?
6. If you are currently married, is this your first marriage? If not, list previous spouse and length of relationship.
7. How long after you began to live together, married or not, did your relationship change?
8. How are your arguments usually resolved: Whoever yells the loudest? Clamming up, or walking out? Crying? Guilting one another?
9. Physical abuse between you and your spouse? If so, who is doing it and what form of abuse?
10. Are you buying a home or renting an apartment?
11. Do you have anyone else living with you in your home or are you and your spouse living with someone else?
12. Do you plan regular get-away’s alone together?
13. When was the last time you went out alone together?
14. Have you ever had counseling as a couple before?
15. If so, how long did you go and how did it turn out?

FIDELITY, INFIDELITY & SEPARATION
16. Have you ever been unfaithful?
17. If so, how many times were you unfaithful?
18. Has your spouse ever been unfaithful?
19. If so, how long did the affair last?
20. Have you ever been separated?
21. If so, why?
22. For how long?
23. Who initiated the separation?
24. Are you currently separated? If so, for how long now?
25. What caused the separation?
26. Have you ever confided your unhappiness in your relationship with a member of the opposite sex?

INTIMACY
27. How would you describe your sex life?
28. How would your spouse describe yalls sex life?
29. Do you use pornography? Alone or with your spouse?
30. How long has it been since you were intimate with your spouse?
31. How often weekly are you intimate?

CHILDREN
32. (If either of you have children-if not, skip this section) How many children do you have?
33. How old are the children?
34. Are the kids yours, your spouse's, or y'all's together?
35. Which children live with you?
36. Are you having any trouble with any of the children? If so, which one(s)?
37. What is the main issue with him/her?
38. Do you yell or curse at each other? In front of the kids?
39. If so, do they see yall make up after a fight?

YOU
40. Financial issues?
41. Do you tend to be controlling?
42. Do you suffer with depression? Explain.
43. Do you read books? If so, are they fiction or non-fiction in nature?
44. Do you have trouble finding or keeping a job?
45. Do you feel you are prideful?
46. Please answer each question: Would you say others see you as an angry or happy person? A kind or a mean or cruel person? A generous or stingy person? A jealous or trusting person? A selfish or giving person? An honest or dishonest person? A hard working or lazy person? An organized or disorganized person? A clean or not so clean person? An overindulgent or temperate and well balanced person?

47. Please answer each question: Would you say your SPOUSE sees you as an angry or happy person? A kind or a mean or cruel person? A generous or stingy person? A jealous or trusting person? A selfish or giving person? An honest or dishonest person? A hard working or lazy person? An organized or disorganized person? A clean or not so clean person? An overindulgent or temperate and well balanced person?

48. Please answer each question: Do you see YOURSELF as an angry or happy person? A kind or a mean or cruel person? A generous or stingy person? A jealous or trusting person? A selfish or giving person? An honest or dishonest person? A hard working or lazy person? An organized or disorganized person? A clean or not so clean person? An overindulgent or temperate and well-balanced person?

49. Do you feel you have to have the last word or always get your way?

SPIRITUAL
50. Do you believe in God?
51. Do you pray over and with your spouse and family daily?
52. Where do you attend church?
53. Do you attend regularly together?
54. Describe your relationship with Jesus if you have one.
55. Do you have a tough time forgiving your spouse?

GROWING UP-PARENTS, ETC
56. Ages of your parents and brothers & sisters (siblings):
57. Did someone other than your parents raise you?
58. Did either of your parents abuse you in any way?
59. Did your mother play with you and your siblings?
60. Did your father play with you and your siblings?
61. Where are you in the birth order? (ex: firstborn, middle-born etc.)
62. Are your parents still married?
63. If not, why did they divorce?
64. Does divorce run in your family?
65. Do you tell your family when you are in strife with your spouse?
66. Do you have any trouble with your in-laws?

SOCIAL
67. Do you have married friends?
68.Do you prefer single friends?
69. If so, would you say they have a better or worse marriage than you do?
70. Do they encourage you to forgive your spouse or condemn when you tell them you have been in strife?
71. Do you hang out with single friends without your spouse? If so, how many times a week on the average?
72. Do either of you have social network trouble?
73. Would your spouse say that you are on your phone too much?
74. Do you hang out with or text daily or talk to and confide in with a member of the opposite sex?
75. If so, what does your spouse say about that?
76. Do you go out without your spouse with the guys/girls?

PHYSICAL
77. How many hours sleep do you get on an average?
78. How much water do you average daily?
79. Do you take medication? If so, why?
80. Are you addicted to alcohol or any other substances?

MINDSET-in your opinion
81. Describe the main problem you are each having right now in your marriage? (PLEASE BE DETAILED)



82. Do you feel there is hope for your relationship?
83. Describe life at home growing up. (PLEASE BE DETAILED)




84. What is the difference between living together and being married?
85. Describe what a good husband would be like?


86. Describe what a good wife would be like?


87. What would a good parent, male AND female be like?


88. What are a man’s responsibilities to his wife and family?


89. What are a wife’s responsibilities to her husband and family?
90. Should a couple have their own bank accounts or pool their resources together?
91. Should a couple spend their free time and vacations together or is it okay to spend them with other people?
92. Are you open to counseling? 

This is the end of your questionnaire. Now, send it to philandjess@marriage101.net NOT as a PDF file, but as an attachment please.

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